Qussey (26), Denmark, escort girl

Pottery

I caught my boyfriend texting with his best friend about how "legit hot" his therapist is. He said "I thought all you had to do was compliment a girl on her hair and shoes and it was an automatic blow job. Guess not with her." He went on to talk about how yoga pants are a "gift from God" and that's why he loves going to the gym, just so he can see other women in them. If that wasn't enough, he was taking about how he cheated on his ex gf with her sister and was slapped across the face, and usibgpretty crude, vulgar words about it. It was like someone I didn't even know. He told me before that he loves me so much that he never has the urge to look at other women and has no need to. Well, this clearly doesn't sound like it. I'm sure he may have been joking about some of it, but it still hurts and makes me feel like dirt. I feel so disrespected and knowing how he views women is gross. If you are "so in love" with someone, you should respect them enough to not talk about other women like that. I was talking with friends and the convo started to get into other men's looks, and out of respect for my bf, I left the convo. I would never disrespect him in that way, and thought he would have done the same...but he initiated all of that talk, and his married friend egged him on. I don't know what to do. I've been crying and feel so gross and betrayed. I don't know that I can trust him again. He sounded like a stranger that I had never met.

Prill

Also, while it's possible for two "broken" people to heal each other through their relationship, it's highly unlikely because both people have to be ready, willing, and receptive--at the same time, to the same degree, and with the same capability-- to the process of healing. I don't know about you, but I've been with plenty of avoidant men (my pattern), and when we hit the inevitable crossroads caused by my pursuit and their avoidance, they were not ready, capable, willing, or cognizant of the need to examine our relationship dynamics and take steps with me to right the imbalance. I wanted to change, and they did not. One of them even said to me, "I am what I am, and I'm not changing." There can be no healing in such a dynamic.

Skance

Does your family REALLY understand the reason why the marriage failed, or are they being typical family and assuming the best of their daughter and the worst of the exh?

Yolande

If someone doesnt want to get married, you see that as a "red flag" - haha